At the confrontation of death, we become aware of how precious and unique our life was all along. We tend to ignore and overlook things we have and notice their absence and essence when we cannot. Therefore, we focus on the inconsequential stuff dictated by social pressures or do not want to. The most important things in life are those you find pleasure and meaning in pursuing. The things that emanate from individual interests, values, and abilities are the most significant where the emphasis should be placed (Ben-Shahar, 2007). We should spend quality time with our beloved friends, family, and engaging in activities that contribute to the ultimate currency. We should ensure we do not miss out on anything we would like to do. The burden of regrets is greater than the pain associated with failure; therefore, it is worth to try out things that make you happy than failing. People realize the value of life upon death due to fear that they may never do something they took for granted when they had the opportunity.
I happened to take a trip with a friend that had not figured out where we are going. The trip was boring because we focused on finding the direction rather than enjoying the journey’s beauty. Whenever we encountered a passer-by, we would ask for recommendations to reach our unknown destination. Although we had the means of transport, we did not know where to go, and we spent a crucial part of the journey worried. Some of our lives resemble the trip that has no direction. When we do not have goals, we are easily carried away by other factors in our success journey. We do not savor and enjoy the journey process’s adventure because we do not have a clarified destination.
Simplifying your life does not necessarily compromise our level of success. Simplifying life requires us to stop doing things that are not significant and shift our attention to the important ones. It also does not suggest that we stop working hard, but we work passionately to our cause (Ben-Shahar, 2007). In my perspective, I can accomplish a huge task when under pressure, but the quality of the work may not compare with one that I have taken the time and relaxed to perform. Completing an enormous task during the last minute creates a false relief of happiness because we do the work to finish but exclude pleasure in the process. If you invest time studying and score a C, you will feel disappointed because the level of time and work invested does not reflect the grade. Fear makes B student and C friends because potential students who can score B find satisfaction in scoring C when they do assignments in the shortest time possible.
. We need to respond to the three questions to experience flow. When we match our skills and ability, we do things we want without getting anxious or bored and increasing our ultimate currency price. Indeed incorporation of a happiness revolution in our culture could foster peace in the world. When we place happiness as the priority, envious feelings and conflicts are less likely to appear due to the limitless nature of happiness. There is no point in being most persuasive and denying yourself pleasure because happiness is the greatest human beings can pursue. Most persuasive people tend to do things to impress others, social status, or meet expectations; therefore, they do not go for something they value. On the other hand, happier people are more persuasive because they pursue self-concordant goals and shine their light on the world without any external pressure.
Ben-Shahar, T. (2007). Happier: Learn the secrets to daily joy and lasting fulfillment. McGraw Hill Professional.